Babies

Babies are so cute. They smell nice and even when they cry it's so adorable.
It's totally understandable why anyone would want one. Everyone believes that there's a NEED to have one or more.
There's so many people I've encountered that through their second marriage, they need to have a child to complete it. Most of the time, like me, have children from previous marriage. I was young when I had my 3 back-to-back. Being a stay at home mom made it easy but it not only put stress and financial strain on my relationship, I realized that the man I decided to have children with is a shithead. Even when he was trying. He would never be the father or the man I wanted him to be. Most new moms start thinking about their future with husband and wonder even if he's financially secure, if he's EVER good enough. And that would be no. Then realizing your freedom is lost and so is your once perfect body.
The husband will come home and not want to hear the wife complain about the amount of crap she's had to deal with after a long day of his own.
Why?
Why do we do this?
Back in the day, the birth rate was low, and carrying the family name was a big thing. Times are different.
And here I am. People are peppering me with questions of "are you going to give your husband a baby?". Yes, I feel terrible he doesn't have one. But seeing how I can't stand but love the 3 that I already have, the thought of another one is ludicrous!!!!
But he doesn't have one. Thing is, he's always gotten everything he wants. And when he's bored, he's done. Can't do that with a baby! Feedings every few hours, sleepless nights, babysitting/daycare, diapers, dr visits, baby food, clothes, furniture, strollers, diaper bags, bathing, teething, ear infections, diaper rashes, vomiting, diarrhea, potty training, sticky hands, runny noses, high chairs, car seats, temper tantrums, crying, baby food...
I don't want it.
If my marriage depends on it? Sure. I'd do anything for my husband but it'll be something I know I'll have to mentally prepare & dread.
Don't get me wrong. I love them. Every minute of it. But I don't have the time or the money.
My friends who are now in their second marriage or relationship, just gave birth to their fourth, like I would. No offense, they not only look like shit, but telling me how bad of an idea this is.
Mind you, we both work full time, love date nights with drinks, last minute trips, going out with the boys. A baby will put a screeching halt to this. Or just to me. And I know it will flare some nasty fights.
Like my younger sis says, "what's the point or the need? Why do I want to do that to myself? What am I missing out on? Who am I trying to impress?"
But. If my husband really truly wants one, then I'll attempt to save the money and do what I need to to give him one. Even knowing how it will change everything.
I tell him he can change the last names of my kids, shit, he can even have them IF we get divorced! I'll pay him child support and leave! I'll give him full custody AND disappear! Lol
I love my kids, but I can't stand them. They are my everything. And everything is them. And they touch everything. Get into things. I'm tired. I want them to succeed and get out of my nest. Not make more.
I feel bad. He doesn't know the joys of having his own. Only knows the headaches. Does he really want this???